Men’s health centre

Sexual foreplay: What’s in it for men?

How to make sexual foreplay work for you

“Some men have problems with rapid ejaculation,” says Weston, citing another common reason for avoiding sexual foreplay. “Sometimes they’ll go for an early insert, if you will, then hope that there might be enough interest from their partner that there might be a round two later, and there might be some foreplay in between those two intercourse times.”

However, not all women want the same thing, though. Weston counselled one couple where the woman wanted the wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am while her older mate (well-trained by earlier women, no doubt) liked to linger longer. She ended up leaving him.

Sexual foreplay and lovemaking: What’s your hurry?

Pop culture is surely another culprit. How many quickie sex scenes (on the train, in the bathroom, on the kitchen table) have you seen in movies and on TV? However, they rarely show the woman’s frustration afterwards; it would slow down the plot. There is no downside to slowing down the storyline in your lovemaking. In fact, there may be fringe benefits.

“They’re missing out on the time they can spend having sex,” says Weston of the men who regularly forego sexual foreplay in order to cut straight to intercourse. “Unless they’re really short on time or sleep, it seems to me that the extra minutes are only a plus. They’re also probably missing out on goodwill coming from their partner.”