Sexual foreplay: What’s in it for men?
Sexual foreplay means more sex. That’s something any man can appreciate
How to make sexual foreplay work for you
“Some men have problems with rapid ejaculation,” says Weston, citing another
common reason for avoiding sexual foreplay. “Sometimes they’ll go for an early
insert, if you will, then hope that there might be enough interest from their
partner that there might be a round two later, and there might be some foreplay
in between those two intercourse times.”
However, not all women want the same thing, though. Weston counselled one
couple where the woman wanted the wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am while her older mate
(well-trained by earlier women, no doubt) liked to linger longer. She ended up
Sexual foreplay and lovemaking: What’s your hurry?
Pop culture is surely another culprit. How many quickie sex scenes (on the
train, in the bathroom, on the kitchen table) have you seen in movies and on
TV? However, they rarely show the woman’s frustration afterwards; it would slow
down the plot. There is no downside to slowing down the storyline in your
lovemaking. In fact, there may be fringe benefits.
“They’re missing out on the time they can spend having sex,” says Weston of
the men who regularly forego sexual foreplay in order to cut straight to
intercourse. “Unless they’re really short on time or sleep, it seems to me that
the extra minutes are only a plus. They’re also probably missing out on
goodwill coming from their partner.”